The confident, charming, and visible side can make someone appear strong and lead others to see them as a leader before the relationship has shown whether they can lead effectively.
The competitive side that puts others down can create conflict and, over time, make the person less well liked.
“That is precisely why people with strong narcissistic traits can gain so much power in a relationship. The power lies not only in what they make you believe about them. It lies in what they make you feel about yourself.”
The Startup Compass
Skills matter.
But skills are also experienced through their effect on other people.